16th Sunday after Pentecost, 2008
Although I sometimes read in the lives of the saints about some holy person who
is said to have / ‘loved humiliations’ / along with fasting and penances, I
think that I can report with honesty that I don’t recall in my own experience
anyone who enjoyed being humiliated. That might be taken as saying that I have
yet to meet a saint, but that’s not what I really mean. There is an instinctive
reactive impulse in man / against humiliation: to be corrected by another; to be
proved inadequate physically or mentally; to be left out of the circle; to have
one’s sins made public; to be ridiculed / even unjustly, that is, where there’s
no true cause. Disgrace is afeared universally and no one I-know-of / delights
in it. I’m reminded here of a biblical word we sometimes come across in our
liturgy and in our prayers: ‘Lord, may I not be / confounded.’ Confounded can
mean damned (as in reference to hell), but also ‘being put to shame.’ The
prospect of being held “in everlasting horror and disgrace” (words from the
traditional funeral liturgy) is dreaded indeed, for it means perpetual
exclusion. I think here of the significance of hiding onself when being ashamed,
or of covering one’s face, a gesture which children may more instinctively do,
like those figures of the damned in the painting of Michelangelo’s Last
Judgment.
To be robbed of one’s dignity by public humiliation is a huge suffering of the
spirit and I would say that it is among the most formidable testings of one’s
moral endurance. It’s far easier to endure physical wounds than to suffer from a
wounded self-love, the hurt ego which is so sensitive to the stings of
humiliation.
It’s sometimes acknowledged that the mental sufferings of our Lord in His
Passion were far more poignant than His many and severe physical tortures. Those
mental torments would include not only the betrayal by Judas and the fleeing of
His disciples, but also the horrible humiliations of being spat upon in the
face, blindfolded and struck with blows to the face, stripped of his clothing,
and mocked for His kingship weighed very heavily upon His Sacred Heart. The
spiritual hurts / cut more deeply.
The opposite of humiliation is–for lack of a better word–self-glory, glorying in
oneself. It may seem to be overstating the case to say it so boldly, but
self-glory is the very antithesis of religion, which is, fundamentally,
rendering glory to God. “I am the Lord, your God; you shall not have strange
gods before Me.” Putting oneself before God, or in His place, is the essence of
sin.
I turn now to the Gospel of the day. After curing the man suffering from dropsy
(a puffing of the body by fluids), our Lord counsels His hearers to seek the
last place. This was His way of giving us a different kind of cure, the cure for
our own puffed up, self-glorifying tendencies. To kick onself, to avoid being
honored or praised, or to have recognition, or be complimented, or thought of as
handsome, pretty, strong, smart, appealing, witty, talented–preferring the low
place is an exercise of the will, something that needs to be practiced / so that
whenever one is humiliated, one is able to handle the blow of embarrassment. The
practice of putting down one’s impulses for self-promotion is an imposed
discipline that will surely pay off handsomely both in this life and in the
next.
We can more readily see the need to curb the pleasures of the body than to curb
the pleasures of the spirit, that is, the tendency towards self-glory. Clipping
it by putting oneself in the lowest place by voluntary ‘put-down’ (as the modern
lingo has it), will help avoid the impact of smarting in times of humiliation,
but it will also help us to avoid the tendencies to give in to our prideful
inclinations which typically end up in committing our sins.
Just as a student can learn from his mistakes as well as from his lessons, so we
can learn a lot in how to become spiritual people not only from the lives of the
saints but also from our own past sins and our humiliations; how, that is, to
put down the self in order to give glory to God: and these two are in direct
contradiction.
Our Savior was not just giving us a lesson in etiquette in how to behave when
being invited to a wedding, but drawing up a prescription for the whole health
of our souls.